Considering a threesome but worried about the jealousy, hurt feelings, or insecurity? It’s all about communication and trust. Some of the major causes of divorce include a lack of intimacy, differing sexual drives/needs, infidelity, and a basic lack of communication or shared goals. How many of these can a threesome help? Try all of them. Here’s how.

A lack of intimacy can be caused by a lot of things. Boredom. Lack of excitement or anticipation. It’s the old “familiarity breeds contempt” cliché brought to life. Planning for and experiencing threesomes will obviously bring back the shared excitement and shake things up. Try something new. Get new ideas and input. Bring back the intoxicating thrill of the anticipation.

Another problem is differing needs or levels of drives. A new partner for the two of you will do amazing things to revitalize the fire, both during the party and afterwards, when the two of you are alone again. The thrill remains long after. If one partner feels as though they can’t fulfill the needs of the other with their own actions, giving their lover what they need in other ways also brings a level of satisfaction. And the thrill remains, so just maybe the experience will give the underperforming partner some motivation.

Infidelity? Why, when everyone is getting what they need? Threesomes can fulfill the needs that often drive someone to look elsewhere. By restoring excitement, leveling the field, or just creating motivation, there is no reason to go anywhere else.

But communication is the key, as always. Introducing the idea of a threesome requires sensitivity, compassion, honesty. Talk to your partner about what you need and why. Listen to their own needs, desires, and fears. Try to understand what the other is feeling. What have you got? Communication. By setting up the threesome, you have opened a line of communication with your partner.

Use it as a model for dealing with other issues. Honest communication, regardless of how it begins, can save a relationship. Add that to the thrill of the new partner(s) for you both, and many of the reasons for divorce or splitting up will have vanished, burned in the heat of your rekindled desire for your one, true lover.